Connection is everything.
But what does connection even mean, really?
Connection is something that we, as humans, need to survive. Connection to both self and others is one of the fundamental needs of any human being.
Connection with a community of like-minded people is also super important.
How we get this connection can be what I call 'resourceful' (positive) or 'unresourceful' (negative).
The thing with human needs is that, in order to meet them, we will go over and above what is important to us. We will over ride our own value system to make sure that our individual human needs are met.
Wild isn’t it?
Here is an example of how that could look in real life:
One partner is not feeling like they have connection to their loved one. If that persons needs of connection and love are not being met, no matter how much they think cheating is wrong, even if honesty is right at the top of their value list, they will potentially cheat if they feel that strong sense of connection coming...
So, it is not just people who have had a traumatic child-hood or who have even suffered from some kind of adult trauma in their lives. Anxieties can hit those of us who are feeling uncertain in our lives.
Let me explain a little more about what anxiety really is; anxiety occurs where we represent time in our minds; when we ruminate about past events in our lives, we often feel what we know as guilt – anxiety. When we are uncomfortable in the present moment this is more about our current needs being unmet- anxiety. Now, if you really like to torture yourself then you like to plan out the worst case scenarios over and over in your head, of future events that may or may not happen – anxiety. In fact this is known as catastrophising yuk! I think that we can all relate to this. This is the stuff that we need to learn how to transform and then we can consciously start to create our lives, we are creating them anyway so may as well do it consciously. As I teach my...