How Personal Development ruined my life!

Personal development ruined my life!

If you had been with me in May of 2000 you would have seen me in California, having the time of my life. I was travelling in a convertible Mustang with my best friend living a scene from Thelma and Louise (without the bad stuff!)

From the outside, I was a super outgoing, gregarious, young woman with the world at my feet. However, on the inside I had little self-belief and people would constantly take advantage of my trusting nature. Traditional methods of education don’t work with my brain, so in High School I created the belief that I was thick and stupid. I had the confidence to be outrageous yet no true inner-confidence.

On that trip I became close to the Kelly family. Robby introduced me to some insightful books including ‘The Power of Positive Thinking’. I became fast friends with his gorgeous sister who helped me discover ‘The Landmark Forum’, a 3 day seminar where I learnt more about myself than I ever thought...

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Self-confidence

Confidence is something that we don’t really think much about, until we notice a lack of it, when it’s not there, when it got up and left us-just when we needed it the most!  

 

Many of my clients feel like they have zero or little confidence. Everyone has confidence but sometimes that confidence seems selective and only appears in certain segments of life.

 

I have seen clients who are successful in business yet totally lacking in confidence when it comes to relationship areas. I have seen amazingly confident mums really struggling with confidence in the workplace and super confident footballers who've lost their confidence temporarily because of a knock-back on the pitch.

 

Confidence can be like a fleeting super-power that is present one minute and then out the door the next! If you master the art of stepping into your own magnificence and growing your own confidence in a truly authentic way, with some hard work,...

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Asking For Help

It is Mental Health Awareness Week and so I am writing about asking for help.

 

Many of us, especially men, don’t like to ask for help. It is deemed weak and we think we can be seen as needy or less independent. BUT it’s time to let that misconception go. 

 

The idea that us Brits have a ‘stiff upper lip’, has left us more prone to mental health issues due to feeling alone, unsupported and sometimes totally misunderstood. As kids we should be taught to better understand our emotions, vocalise them and ask for help when we feel lost, overwhelmed, stuck or unable to make sense of what is going on. Imagine if we as a collective community were able to more easily say ‘hey, I am really struggling right now, can I ask you for help?’ What would become possible for you? For your family? For your children?

 

Connection/support is a human need and having the ability to ask for support when it’s needed can help to deepen...

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Self-belief

Lets talk about self-belief…

 

This is a big one, wouldn’t you agree?

 

What would you do if you had limitless self-belief? 

 

This is something I often ask my clients. I love asking this, because in that moment I see a twinkle in their eyes, as they lift their chins and access the creative part of their brain.

 

So, if you had limitless self-belief what would YOU DO?  

 

With self-belief you can literally achieve anything that you want to, eventually. With hard work you can be, do and have what you want. The sad thing is that most people live in a state of self doubt for most of their lives.

 

Self-belief is precious, without it you could end up giving up when things get tough or you get knocked down. Self-belief is imperative for fulfilment, progress and success in a challenging, competitive world.

 

You were born with self-belief and confidence, these two are deeply linked.

 

Do we say to our children...

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'Letting Go' of What No Longer Serves Us

‘Letting go' of what no longer serves us is a hot topic in the holistic world.

 

What do we mean and why is it so important?

 

I help my clients let go of their anxious thoughts and beliefs so they can create a life that they love and a life that they deserve. We all deserve to have a rich, fulfilled, amazing and joyful life but most people don’t realise it, don’t believe that they are worthy of it or feel that they don’t deserve it!

 

Anxiety, depression and mental limitations stop us from truly shining our light, to its fullest. These disempowering states prevent us from being the magnificent beings that we were brought forth to be.

 

I work with the law of attraction, both with myself and my clients and until you let go of what is stopping you, what is holding you back then I’m afraid to say you will never get to where you want to be. Harsh? Maybe. But true.

 

Something that no longer serves you could be an unfulfilling...

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How to stay motivated in times of stress

In my eyes, stress and motivation are at completely opposite ends of what I like to call 'The Emotional Ladder'

Here's a question I'm often asked: 'How can I feel motivated to stay on track with my goals when I feel so stressed? When I'm stressed, the last thing I feel is motivated!' 

It's a good question.

Luckily, there are techniques you can use to stay motivated in stressful times. 

I often talk about The Emotional Ladder in both my corporate and personal programmes as I feel it provides a great visual aid for our ever-changing thoughts and feelings.

Now, think of your emotional ladder. Picture it in your mind. Despair might be at the very bottom rung of your ladder and joy might be at the very top.

During the course of your life, your thoughts and feelings will move up and down between both ends of your ladder. In fact, even during the course of one day we might scale different ends of the ladder!

Sometimes you might be acutely aware that you are...

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Negative Thoughts and How to Change Them!

Do you realise how powerful your thoughts are? 

What you are living today is a result of what you thought yesterday, last week, last month and even last year. Your thoughts are creating your life! 

You create what you think. When you think, feeling over and over WOW - this is the powerful stuff that can change your life, you can change your health and wellbeing, your body and even your own DNA! Am I serious? Yes I am, this has been written about and researched by Bruce Lipton in his works on ‘The Biology of Belief’.

 

We have 60,000-80,000 thoughts every single day for many people these thoughts are not supportive, uplifting and kind, they are the opposite. They can be judgemental, harsh, unkind and even down right nasty. I mean, have you ever heard your inner-voice saying things like ‘you can’t do that, you aren’t good enough, you’re not worthy, you will probably make a mess of this too, who do you think you are?’  Or...

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7 ways to stop feeling so stressed

What is stress? Stress is a reaction to mental and/or emotional pressure. Something that is a normal part of life and can actually serve a purpose on many occasions, however when stress is prolonged over time it can have a detrimental impact on health mentally, emotionally and physically

I am going to share some powerful rituals and strategies to help you overcome and manage your own stress.

Now, as this is my area of expertise, I could talk for hours on the this subject so, for your sake, I will keep it brief, yet I am going to share some smashing skills - so make sure you stay with me till the end.

We all feel stress in our lives, more recently stress has become more a part of day to day living, because of the lack of control that we are experiencing in our lives, due to the current situation.

The fact that we are having no ‘down time’ or ‘separation time’.

Let me explain this before I go any further.

Normally we are leaving our homes to travel to...

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Overwhelm and Regaining Composure.

I think you will agree with me that over the past year most of us have felt some kind of overwhelm. In this article I will share a couple of tips to help to reduce overwhelm.  

 

Life can seem overwhelming enough.. add a global pandemic alongside some home schooling, working from home, massive change and I believe that overwhelm is high on the list of experiences from the past year.

 

When we are in a state of overwhelm we don’t get much done. Our nervous system is in ‘fight or flight’ mode, or in its ‘survival state’, which means that we are either ready to run off or fight something which is endangering our lives. You see, our nervous system wasn’t created with home schooling and modern challenges in mind. It’s literally our survival mechanism and when it is constantly being triggered, overwhelm is what we face. 

 

When we are in this ‘state’ it is a huge challenge to be in...

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Setting the right goals for YOU

I help all kinds of people to set and achieve their goals. Whether it’s tangible goals of manifesting their dream home, getting a promotion or increasing their income or goals that enable my clients to feel and be a certain way; like calm and centred instead of anxious.  More self-belief instead of self-doubt. Goals can come in many different shapes and sizes. 

 

Let’s address something here; 

Whose goals are you creating?

Are they things that you want?

Or are they things that society or family told you that you should be aiming for?

 

This indoctrination of who we are destined to be starts young.

Remember questions like, what do you want to be when you grow up?

Well, we can be, do and have anything that we want.

 

We are expected to make decisions at the tender age of 15/16 about what we want to do with our futures and if we don’t know we can be made to feel like we have no direction, focus or drive. 

 

The thing is,...

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