In my eyes, stress and motivation are at completely opposite ends of what I like to call 'The Emotional Ladder'
Here's a question I'm often asked: 'How can I feel motivated to stay on track with my goals when I feel so stressed? When I'm stressed, the last thing I feel is motivated!'
It's a good question.
Luckily, there are techniques you can use to stay motivated in stressful times.
I often talk about The Emotional Ladder in both my corporate and personal programmes as I feel it provides a great visual aid for our ever-changing thoughts and feelings.
Now, think of your emotional ladder. Picture it in your mind. Despair might be at the very bottom rung of your ladder and joy might be at the very top.
During the course of your life, your thoughts and feelings will move up and down between both ends of your ladder. In fact, even during the course of one day we might scale different ends of the ladder!
Sometimes you might be acutely aware that you are...
Do you realise how powerful your thoughts are?
What you are living today is a result of what you thought yesterday, last week, last month and even last year. Your thoughts are creating your life!
You create what you think. When you think, feeling over and over WOW - this is the powerful stuff that can change your life, you can change your health and wellbeing, your body and even your own DNA! Am I serious? Yes I am, this has been written about and researched by Bruce Lipton in his works on ‘The Biology of Belief’.
We have 60,000-80,000 thoughts every single day for many people these thoughts are not supportive, uplifting and kind, they are the opposite. They can be judgemental, harsh, unkind and even down right nasty. I mean, have you ever heard your inner-voice saying things like ‘you can’t do that, you aren’t good enough, you’re not worthy, you will probably make a mess of this too, who do you think you are?’ Or...
What is stress? Stress is a reaction to mental and/or emotional pressure. Something that is a normal part of life and can actually serve a purpose on many occasions, however when stress is prolonged over time it can have a detrimental impact on health mentally, emotionally and physically.
I am going to share some powerful rituals and strategies to help you overcome and manage your own stress.
Now, as this is my area of expertise, I could talk for hours on the this subject so, for your sake, I will keep it brief, yet I am going to share some smashing skills - so make sure you stay with me till the end.
We all feel stress in our lives, more recently stress has become more a part of day to day living, because of the lack of control that we are experiencing in our lives, due to the current situation.
The fact that we are having no ‘down time’ or ‘separation time’.
Let me explain this before I go any further.
Normally we are leaving our homes to travel to...
I think you will agree with me that over the past year most of us have felt some kind of overwhelm. In this article I will share a couple of tips to help to reduce overwhelm.
Life can seem overwhelming enough.. add a global pandemic alongside some home schooling, working from home, massive change and I believe that overwhelm is high on the list of experiences from the past year.
When we are in a state of overwhelm we don’t get much done. Our nervous system is in ‘fight or flight’ mode, or in its ‘survival state’, which means that we are either ready to run off or fight something which is endangering our lives. You see, our nervous system wasn’t created with home schooling and modern challenges in mind. It’s literally our survival mechanism and when it is constantly being triggered, overwhelm is what we face.
When we are in this ‘state’ it is a huge challenge to be in...
I help all kinds of people to set and achieve their goals. Whether it’s tangible goals of manifesting their dream home, getting a promotion or increasing their income or goals that enable my clients to feel and be a certain way; like calm and centred instead of anxious. More self-belief instead of self-doubt. Goals can come in many different shapes and sizes.
Let’s address something here;
Whose goals are you creating?
Are they things that you want?
Or are they things that society or family told you that you should be aiming for?
This indoctrination of who we are destined to be starts young.
Remember questions like, what do you want to be when you grow up?
Well, we can be, do and have anything that we want.
We are expected to make decisions at the tender age of 15/16 about what we want to do with our futures and if we don’t know we can be made to feel like we have no direction, focus or drive.
The thing is,...
Kindness. Being kind. What does this mean?
Well, kindness is about being friendly, considerate of thoughts and feelings of others and generous. Kindness is a high vibration emotion. If someone does something kind for you, how does it make you feel? Warm and fluffy! When you do something kind for others it allows you to fulfil one of the 6 basic human needs; contribution. We can choose to contribute with our careers, within our family unit or by choosing to volunteer for a charity. It is important for us all to recognise that contributing creates fulfilment.
Whilst I am talking about human needs lets talk about connection. Connection/love is something that we can’t live without. Kindness also taps into this need and allows us to feel a sense of connection to the person that we are giving kindness to or the person that we are receiving kindness from. Also, if we are part of a group that is generating kindness then we are both...
Self-love, self-love, self-love and all that jazz.. We keep hearing all about this stuff from self-love experts and coaches, but what on earth do they all mean!?
I think that we have to look at what self-love means to the individual and we need to ask, why is there such an issue around the subject of self-love and why do so many of us find it so damn tough?
When you are void of self-love and acceptance, what do you have instead? What is lying under the dark depths of our daily tasks, chores and responsibilities? It’s time we dove deeper into the psychology behind self-love, or lack there of.
Let’s start at the beginning.
What is self-love?
What does it mean to you?
How do you know that you’ve got it?
How does it feel?
How does it look, sound and feel?
What would you do differently if you had lashings of self-love?
LOVE. FOR. SELF.
That is it! Sounds simple, however hundreds of clients and years of experience and research tell me that this...
Two tiny yet powerful letters. They have the power to create boundaries that not only protect your wellbeing but create a level of self-esteem that maybe you’ve never had before. The power of saying NO is just that, damn powerful. So, why do many of us feel bad for saying it?
We are a nation made up of polite people, especially if we have a ‘people pleasing’ aspect to us. We find ourselves over committing and saying yes to things that don’t serve us, don’t please us and take us away from our purpose and passion.
You know that feeling when you really don’t want to do what you’re being asked to do; you have that feeling of dread in your stomach, but you don’t want to let the other person down or you don’t want to come across as a bad friend or family member?
That feeling is a...
Now, this is a subject that I think we can all relate to.
Whether we’ve just messed up our diet, drank alcohol in dry January or sabotaged a relationship, I believe we have all been there in some form.
Wouldn’t you agree?
The thing is, we usually won’t realise when we are in that space of self-sabotage as what we decide most of the time comes from a place in our unconscious mind where our belief structure lives. Our core belief structure was largely created when we were children; we picked up ways of thinking and believing from our parents or carers and we didn’t even question why we believed what we did.
Most of us rarely question our beliefs until later on in life when we are in therapy, on some kind of self-discovery journey or wanting to unpick some traumatic or past events that we realise are holding us back from being a better version of ourselves.
From my experience, self-sabotage is a sneaky episode that creeps up when we least expect it...
I have always been a massive hugger. I love to hug. It’s the best way of saying hello to people in your life and it brings so many benefits that it needs to be talked about some more.
It’s a shame that right now we are being told that we are not allowed to hug our friends and family because hugging has been scientifically proven over and over again to support not only mental and emotional well-being but amazingly, it helps to boost physical health, including your immune system.
There have been studies on various species that show that the power of touch is hugely beneficial in the development and growth of each animal.
In 2018, Tiffany Field, Head of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine, travelled to different airports to watch people interacting. The findings were shocking; nobody was touching each other anymore. Everybody was so busy on their phones, even the toddlers were interacting with their devices rather...